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"Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,
There is a field.
I'll meet you there."
- Rumi
You love each other.
You just don’t know how much longer you can keep doing it this way.
You’re not the kind of couple that gives up easily. You’ve built careers, families, and a life together through grit, discipline, and determination. You know how to solve problems and in almost all areas of life, you succeed. But somehow, when it comes to your relationship, all that drive and intelligence just isn’t enough.
You love each other. That’s not the question. But somehow, you keep getting stuck in the same arguments, same shutdowns, same quiet distance that leaves you both feeling alone. It doesn’t matter if it’s about the dishwasher or the future of your family. No matter how big or small the issue is, you walk away feeling like your partner didn’t hear you, didn’t see you, didn’t get it. And if you’re honest, you’re tired. Maybe even wondering how much longer you can keep doing it this way.
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You try to talk, but it ends in defensiveness or shutting down.
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You’re starting to wonder if maybe you’re just too different.
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Even when things look fine on the outside, it feels like something important is missing on the inside.
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The worst part? You’ve already tried everything you can think of but nothing changes.
I help couples who still love each other but feel stuck to talk without it turning into a fight, to really listen and feel heard, and to bring back the spark of connection they’ve been craving.
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If you’re ready to stop spinning your wheels and finally move forward, you're in the right place.​​​​​​​​
Because the truth is...
If left unaddressed, these patterns don't fade on their own. Instead, they deepen over time. What feels like “small misunderstandings” today can harden into walls of silence tomorrow. Moments of disconnection become the norm rather than the exception. And with every missed opportunity to repair, the risk of resentment, loneliness, or one partner quietly checking out becomes very real.
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The truth is, relationships don’t usually collapse overnight. They unravel slowly, in the everyday turning away. And that’s not what you set out to build together. You chose each other for love, support, and partnership, not to feel like strangers living parallel lives under the same roof.​
Why it will be different this time
​When we work together, the first step is slowing things down so we can really look at what’s happening between you. We’ll uncover the differences and emotional sensitivities that keep pulling you into the same painful arguments...the things that feel small on the surface but hit deep when they get pushed. We’ll talk about how outside stressors (work, kids, family, past hurts) sneak their way into your relationship and add fuel to the fire. And together, we’ll start to reshape the way you respond to each other in those heated moments, so instead of falling into the same fight-or-shutdown pattern, you can create a new way of connecting that feels supportive, safe, and real. This isn’t about patching things up for a little while. It’s about breaking old cycles and building a relationship where you both feel understood and truly on the same team.
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As promised, I will keep it real with you. This work isn't for every couple
This type of work is not a quick fix (it took you some time to get this place, it's going to take some time to get out of it and to create new ways of relating that ensure you don't return back to it). And it’s not for couples who aren’t ready to commit to the process. If you’re looking for someone to just referee arguments or tell you who’s right, this will not be a fit. But if you’re ready to move past 'right and wrong' and instead lean into working to see your partner more clearly, softening around your differences, and learning new ways of interacting that bring you closer instead of pushing you apart, I can't wait to meet you. Don’t wait for the distance to keep growing. Take the first step today.
This could be thing you do differently to finally see the changes you not only want but need
I’ve worked thousands of couples from high-achieving professionals to military families facing intense stress and I know what it takes to help partners break free from stuck patterns and rediscover connection.
In fact, I've worked with so many couples who are feeling stuck in this way that I am confident you are thinking: "we should be able to figure this out on our own." I hear that, I resonate with that, I too have been caught in this trap. But if effort and logic alone could solve this, you wouldn’t still be stuck.
You might be thinking: "this feels expensive." And I get it; it’s a real investment. But ask yourself: what’s the cost of staying stuck in the same painful patterns? What’s the price of feeling like roommates instead of partners, or of watching the distance between you grow wider year after year? Therapy isn’t just another bill to pay. This is your chance to invest in the partnership you’ve been missing.
You don’t have to keep doing this alone. You don’t have to stay stuck in cycles that leave you drained and disconnected. Let’s work together to bring back the closeness, trust, and intimacy you both deserve.
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