Ebb and Flow Blog
Thoughtful reflections to support clarity, understanding, and deeper connection.
This space is where I offer reflections on what I notice in the therapy room: the patterns, emotions, and turning points that shape how couples grow and reconnect. Some posts are here to educate; others pull back the curtain a bit, offering a glimpse into how I think as a systems‑trained therapist and what I pay attention to in the work.
My hope is that these reflections help you feel more grounded, more understood, and more equipped to navigate the moments that matter most in your relationship. Whether you’re here to learn, to feel less alone, or to get a sense of what working together might be like, I’m glad you’re here.
Understanding Emotional Distance in Relationships: How Couples Get Stuck and How Healing Happens
Emotional distance rarely shows up all at once. More often, it builds quietly as couples juggle work, parenting, and responsibilities while assuming their relationship will somehow stay steady in the background. Conversations start to feel tense or surface-level, the same conflicts repeat, and intimacy fades, not because love is gone, but because stress, exhaustion, and unresolved emotional patterns have taken over. This post explores why couples get stuck in these cycles and how trauma-informed, attachment-based support can help create meaningful, lasting change.
The Gifts and Challenges of Cross Cultural Marriages: Perspective From a Couples Therapist
Cross‑cultural marriages offer extraordinary richness, but they also come with unique challenges that many couples don’t anticipate. In this guest post, therapist Linda Sanderville, LCSW, RYT‑200, explores how cultural backgrounds shape communication, family expectations, and daily partnership dynamics — and shares compassionate, practical guidance for couples building a relationship that honors both identities.